Thank your broken heart for Valentighting

Did you make it past Red Tuesday or were you Valentighted?

Huh?!

If you’ve been Valentighted, thank your broken heart.

Really.

Valentighting : (verb) the upfront and brutal definition is, that you have been abruptly dumped shortly before Valentine’s Day so that your significant other does not have to spend money on a Valentine’s Day present.

What!

For the love of Valentighting

When I stumbled upon the practice of Valentighting (admittedly while researching another ridiculous practice of non-love – cuffing) I was stunned.

I mean, If you love someone or are thinking you do and are working on clarifying those feelings by engaging in a relationship, isn’t Valentine’s Day THE day you look forward to?

Valentighting, I thought, what a sad and twisted practice.

Sad because in reality, being Valentighted doesn’t necessarily mean your partner doesn’t like you. It’s just that they’re weaseling out of gift buying. But then, wait a minute, if they like you, wouldn’t they be excited about showing you that love on Valentine’s Day? Yet if they’ve chosen Valentighting over gift giving then really, it can’t be love. Right?

Twisted because dumping someone or even ending a relationship is such a delicate thing. So many feelings are involved on both sides. Doing so (dumping someone) simply to avoid gift giving is inappropriate, cruel and just totally unacceptable. Period.

Valentighting, a sad and twisted practice. Socially unacceptable. Unfunny. Just. Plain. Wrong.

On the Flip Side – It’s All Good

But then I thought, wait a minute, it’s all good. This is actually great!

Huh?

You thought you were in love. You thought your partner felt the same. But suddenly Cupid’s bow pierced a hole through your heart instead of shooting an arrow of love into it.

What’s a broken heart to do?

Celebrate.

Really.

Put on your red dress, your blue jeans, whatever, and dance the happy dance!

If your partner sincerely feels that dumping you to save money on gift buying is the way to approach a relationship and/or the “Love” holiday of the year, Valentine’s Day, then true feelings and a sincere relationship is not what they have in mind or heart.

Be grateful you found out fast what your person of no interest really felt toward you.

Whether you’re a guy that’s been Valentighted or a girl, “my” heart goes out to you. Don’t let the dingbat that dumped you define your loveable-ness. Be grateful they’re gone.

Dust off your broken heart and open it up to a more appropriate and healthy relationship.

Kiss and Tell

Let’s honor cupid. It’s Valentine’s Day after all. Let’s create a list of loving activities that will get your heart fluttering. Share in comments one thing you feel you could do with or for your significant other, love interest or partner at Valentine’s Day that would cost little to no money and that would express your loving feelings for them.

Thanks for sharing your ideas. Happy Valentine’s Day!